Are peers the strongest defense against bullying?

Bystanders are the people who see bullying happen, but do nothing to stop it. They may be the ones playing on the playground, getting something out of their locker in the hallway, or sitting across the cafeteria with their own group of friends. They may not be directly involved with the taunting and harassment of another student, but they see it happening.  Bystanders will usually tell you that they feel bad about the bullying they witness and how often they consider speaking up, however, something stops them.

There’s been a bit of press lately on how bystanders are just as guilty as the bullies, but this is a hard pill for me to swallow. I do feel that bystanders have a responsibility to speak up when they see someone being victimized, but ultimately, speaking up is a scary thing.  I think that if young people encouraged other young people to speak up, it could possibly be less of a daunting experience.

What do you think? Are peers the strongest defense against bullying? Personally, I think yes, but read the rest of the article to decide for yourself!

“In almost every tragic case of bullying, there are bystanders. They see the scuffles in the school hallway, and read the vicious stream of insults on Facebook, and look away, or log off. They are both the nervous audience for the bully, and the tear-stained faces in the school assembly when a student commits suicide and the grief counsellors step in.”

Interesting in learning more about the bystander phenomenon? Click here!


Parents Should Be Role Models

November 28th, 2011 | Posted by Jessica in Thoughts | Your Voices - (1 Comments)

Received this email from a friend this morning. While they asked to remain anonymous, they were kind enough to let me share this story with you guys.


I’d like to share a story with you that someone told at work.

A woman was bragging about how her son got suspended from school for bullying a kid on the bus. That’s right… bragging that her son got suspended! Apparently an underclassman was sitting in the back on the bus, in his seat, and he felt like he had the right to physically remove him from it. What’s even more concerning is that this woman I work with is in her late 40′s…yet she was acting like her son did nothing wrong! If parents don’t get the proper education about bullying, how can we expect kids, who are raised by these parents, to behave respectfully? I think schools should require parents to attend certain assemblies with their kids because most adults probably just think that bullying is part of growing up. However, I don’t think they realize how serious of an issue it’s become since they were kids. Especially with technology and all the ways kids can be bullied even outside of the classroom.

Sorry for rambling, just wanted to say I really love what you’re doing with My Kindness Counts. Keep up the great work, I can’t wait to see the website! :)


Never Be Bullied Into Silence

November 27th, 2011 | Posted by Jessica in Thoughts | Your Voices - (0 Comments)


I am a 16 year old junior and last year, we had an anti-bullying program come to my school. The purpose of the program was to encourage people to talk about their experiences with bullying. I liked the purpose of the program but it was kinda lame because the “same-old” kids got up there. I would have liked to see some of the sports team captains and class officers get up there because they tend to be more influential at my school.

Bullying needs to be addressed at an earlier age because cliques are already formed once high school comes.


“Never be bullied into silence.”


So, this video isn’t new, but I think it sends an important message.  Chris Colfer of Glee talked to about winning his Golden Globe for Glee and about his much loved acceptance speech, in which he sent a special message to kids who may be bullied for being just who they are.  Click on the video to hear him explain his thoughts in his own words (then leave YOUR thoughts below!).


Pixie Lott for

November 26th, 2011 | Posted by Jessica in News - (0 Comments)

Hey, Guys!

Do you know Pixie Lott?  She’s a big popstar in the UK, as well as a fierce advocate for bullying.  Pixie joined forces with a UK-based organization called BeatBullying some time ago, and together they raise awareness for bullying and cultivate opportunities to make positive and lasting changes in the lives of individuals bullied (to find out more about BeatBullying, click here!).

The Sun, a UK-based paper, recently ran a story on Pixie’s dedication to not only BeatBullying, but the Big March, and bullying in general. In this article she also talks about the really neat avatars BeatBullying’s site uses to encourage young people to get involved without leaving their front doors.

It’s so nice to see someone in Pixie’s position using her fame in a positive way.  Click HERE to the article in The Sun on Pixie’s dedication to the cause.

If you’re interesting in finding out more about the Big March and how you guys can get involved, click HERE.  After you have clicked around and read up on the issue a bit, please leave your thoughts in the comments section below.  I would love to hear what you think!

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Welcome to My Kindness Counts!

November 23rd, 2011 | Posted by Jessica in Thoughts - (0 Comments)

Welcome to My Kindness Counts!  My name is Jessica, I’m 23 years old, and live in Connecticut.  You can read a little more about me and why I started the MKC site on the About page.  In short, I’m really passionate about bullyingcyber bullying, and working with adults/children/teenagers experiencing it.



Kids React to Bullying

November 18th, 2011 | Posted by Jessica in Thoughts | Videos - (0 Comments)

Have you guys seen any of the “Kids React to…” videos?  Not only are these kids fun to watch, they often give their most honest opinions on whatever they’re asked to watch (Lady Gaga, Rebecca Black- Friday, Dubstep, etc).